5 things to say as your kids head off to college or university

Parents and students both face critical issues during the transition from high school to college or university. Here are some words of wisdom to share with your children as they head to postsecondary school.

1. Don’t be afraid to change your mind.
The typical adult has several careers in a lifespan. It is often impossible for young adults to know exactly what major they want to pursue while still in high school. But postsecondary schools are open to students changing their programs later.
Try: “Don’t worry if you find yourself changing your mind as you discover new majors. Use the first year of college or university to experience the wide range of occupational paths, and you’ll find the road to success soon enough.”

2. Take time to experience school, but remain focused.
First-year students can be overwhelmed by the amount of new people they meet and the number of programs and extracurricular activities available. Tell them that it takes time to adjust to new environments. Gently remind them that their first responsibility at school is to learn.
Try: “Take advantage of your role as a college/university student to tap into internship opportunities, study-abroad programs, student groups and more. Many of the relationships you build now will last a lifetime and will help with future job placements.”

3. Be aware of expenses, but don’t worry about money.
A postsecondary experience doesn’t have to break the bank. Campuses often offer cheap or free activities for students, including movies, field trips and comedy shows. If your student is concerned about a hefty tuition price, suggest commuting to college/university and living at home.
Try: “Education is worth every cent, even if you have to pay for it yourself. Lifetime earnings of well-educated adults surpass their uneducated counterparts. Don’t let student loans weigh on your mind—just work hard to ensure enough financial success to repay the loans!”

4. You’re always welcome back.
Unfortunately, more often than not, graduating students don’t find immediate employment. That can mean your child may live at home for a stint while looking for a job.
Try: “You are welcome back home any time, as long as you are actively pursuing career opportunities.”

5. Call when you can.
The more pressure you put on your teens to call or come home on the weekends, the greater the chance is that they just won’t find the time. Be available to your children when they need you, but focus on living your own life while letting them build theirs.
Try: “Give us call when you have a chance to talk.”

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