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Love-Life
It is so easy to sit back and make comments about things we have never experienced. We have an opinion on everything, and most of the time, we care to share it with others if we feel that we will have some type of an impact on them. While sitting back and observing a situation or event can be quite simple, for many people, it can be the most pain-staking thing to ever undergo.
High school teenagers ultimately do one thing and frequently have this one thing on their minds: dating. It sounds like such a nice and uncomplicated word. However, dating is one of the largest causes of emotional outbursts during the teen era. I have witnessed many of my peers go through a numerous amount of dates, then come to school and complain about their love lives. Not only does this irk me, but it also kind of depresses me.
It is not that I never have any complaints, it is just that I do not have a so-called “love life” about which I can grumble. Sure, there are times when it is nice not to deal with the pressures of a boyfriend, but since that is only about 8.7% of the time, there is plenty of time to wish for one.
Why is it that so many people desire to have high school relationships when many of them do not last very long, or if they do, only a small percentage of them stay together after they graduate? This has always been a mystery to me. However, I believe I may have solved the case on some level.
People love to be wanted and loved. When another human being of the same adolescent age chooses you over everyone else he could have chosen, there is this certain feeling that you are special to more than just your family members who have to live with you. This person has actually picked you, not just gotten stuck with you. I have witnessed a large number of people get this special feeling and that indescribable sparkle in their eyes. It is simply priceless. It makes cheeks turn red when that special person is near; it makes the words so hard to come out of your mouth; it makes a person wait by the phone for a call when they could easily hear it from anywhere else in the house; it makes people stay up all night and talk on AOL Instant Messenger when they should be studying for the huge history exam they have the next day; it makes you forget everything around you and direct your attention only on that one person, the person who has caused you to act like such a crazy fool. This is why so many of us desire to be that crazy fool- we simply want to be fools in love. Rather than an insult, it feels like such a compliment.
Oh, how dating can turn your heart inside out. So sure, this whole concept of dating sounds like great fun. However, when it sounds like fun but it seems like it will never happen to you, that is when the not-so-fun part comes into play. You watch all of your friends have these long-term relationships or many short-term ones. It stinks big time because it leaves you wondering: When am I going to get my chance to have a relationship? No one knows the answer to that question who could actually tell you. Yeah, your friends say to just be patient, that your time will come and it will be worth the wait. Gosh, it must be so easy for them to say that as the thought of how happy they are with their boyfriends runs through their little heads.
Once again, when you have not experienced something, it is so much easier to make comments about it. That is probably the case now: I have never dated, so it is easy for me to comment on it. However, I have been in the no-date seat for quite some time now, and I have come to realize that the single life is not all it is cut out to be. True, there is nothing completely wrong with going solo on a Friday and/or Saturday night. Of course, that is more often more fun if you have already done the whole date thing.
Through all of my observations, I have come to one major conclusion: high school relationships are a good thing. Many adults may frown upon it, but what do they know? I realize they were once in this adolescent age, but I am pretty sure they felt the same way many of us do now. They just will not admit to it because they have lived and learned and do not want us to necessarily live for ourselves at times. They simply wish to inform us that they know all there is to know about this subject, and they are sometimes willing to share this information. However, things have changed slightly since their teen years, so I am pretty sure it is alright if we find out about this whole dating thing all by ourselves.
So, is there a problem with high school relationships? Absolutely not. Is there a problem with not having any of these relationships? No, but life sure would be a bit more fun with at least one. In dating in high school, we can find things we like and dislike about dates so that we will know exactly how we want our future husbands to be. Yes, dating is definitely a good thing in our teen years, and I highly recommend it. This is coming from a girl who has never even been on a date, if that tells you anything. Article provided by 
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